Uloyiko budlelwane nabanye - apho ingaba uloyiko budlelwane

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Uloyiko budlelwane nabanye kuthetha ukuba, njengoko bathi, uloyiko budlelwane nabanye kwaye, idla, vala kwaye elide budlelwane nabanye

Ngamanye amaxesha uloyiko budlelwane nabanye ngu obvious, ndiza anomdla shyness, kwaye hayi nje vala budlelwane nabanye.

Ngamanye amaxesha kukho uloyiko budlelwane nabanye, kodwa kanjalo kuba zonyaka ngolohlobo mna azidingi nabani na ukuze ndonwabe umphefumlo Wam mate nje hasn khange wabonakala kanti, okanye eyona okkt kuba sele wathatyathelwa. Oko sele aphele budlelwane, umzekelo, kunye omkhulu uxanduva, refusing ekuzalisekiseni neminqweno yabo kwaye kufuneka, ekupheleni wenkululeko, ukungakhathali, intlungu kwaye guilt. Kungenxa yokuba anomdla ubudlelwane kwabanye abantu njengoko a reputational umngcipheko, kukholisa rooted kwi-lwabantwana abancinane okanye nkqu kuba abantu kunye namava besebenza a ibhinqa iqabane lakho. Wokuqala amava unxibelelwano kunye abazali okanye abanye caregivers abantwana, umntu learns kwi-lwabantwana abancinane. Umzekelo, i-overstated okanye ithwaliswe kakhulu, thabatha attitude umntwana ngokuchasene yokoyika abantu. Ukongeza koku, engalunganga umtshato zabazali, numerous disputes okanye ilahleko enye ngabazali njengoko ngenxa okunokukhethwa kuko unako provoke uloyiko budlelwane nabanye kwaye uphephe vala budlelwane nabanye. Motto:"akukho budlelwane njenge intlungu ngu kuzalwa ngaphandle ukwaliwa okanye ilahleko ye iqabane lakho."Ngubani koyika ka-budlelwane nabanye, abo baya sizame yonke into ukuva ukoyika. Ngokufanayo kodwa kaninzi ezingafanelekanga izicwangciso-zokusingatha ukoyika, ezifana avoiding kwaye escaping. Oku kubaluleke ngakumbi kuba ezinobungozi ngaba iqabane lakho, njengoko kunjalo waziva kunye a sudden tshintsha nokuziphatha kunye okunokukhethwa kuko ukuba yenzekile, bruises intloko.

Molo, ndenza"umfazi wam ke Ezayo"

Abantu abafumana ubunzima ukusuka budlelwane ukoyika rhoqo kuba efanayo amava kwi lwahlulelwano. Kubalulekile kuphela xa nguye ngobukho bakhe ezinobungozi ukuziphatha kwaye kuthatha xanduva ukusilela yakhe lwahlulelwano ukuba unako ukufunda woloyiso yakhe uloyiko budlelwane nabanye kwi eyiyeyakhe okanye ngoncedo a psychotherapist. Ubudlelwane anxiety uvavanyo ibonisa nokuba ufuna umntu othe unconsciously avoids isebenza ngokusondeleleneyo kunye ngaphandle koloyiko. Ndiyabulela kuba ixesha lakho. Mna anayithathela rhoqo kokuba i-vula indlebe kuba abanye abantu ke yethutyana. Yiyo intliziyo yam babefuna ukuba umsebenzi njenge psychotherapist. Yintoni khuthazwa kum uninzi yayingumnqweno kuba abantu fumana zabo nako ukufumana enye ngcono kunye nabo nabanye. Njengoko ukulingana wam elinolwazi imisebenzi, ndifumana ngentsasa meditation, Nordic ehamba, gin Shin Jutsu, kwaye baking okumnandi dishes cakes'. Ngokwahlukeneyo. Ndiza nje kakuhle ngoku kwaye sino nto ngokufanayo ngaphandle kokuba isibini emangalisayo abantwana ukuba siyamthanda. Ngexesha elinye, emva kweenyanga iinyanga ukuqonda kwaye ehlonipha ngamnye enye. Mna kuba umfazi sisazi okokuba ndiya kuba yonke into ndicinga kwaye ukuva ukuba ndine ezilahlekileyo idlulileyo. Ngoku yena ngu koyika kubudlelwane ukuze sibe kungena. Ingxaki kukuba kwixesha elidlulileyo. Yena ke, uzole watshata, nje kwi-iphepha. Kwaba yakho umyeni ke ignorance.

Ngoko wahlangana umntu othe wawa ngothando kunye naye, kodwa emva xa wabuyela umfazi wakhe kunye umntwana.

Ngoku ke, ndafunda, siyazi kwaye ayoyika ukwenza enye into ukuze baphile kwakhona.

Ndiya kuvuma wam uthando kwaye affection. Yena thinks ndizama ukwenza fun kuye. Ngoku yena ubhala, emva kokubuza nam malunga nemvakalelo yakhe kuba nam. Impendulo waba Ewe. Ke oko ufuna umsebenzi. Le yindlela eqhelekileyo. Boyfriend yam waphula phezulu nam emva kwiiveki ezimbalwa.

Ndiyazi ukuba yena hasn khange kokuba na uvakalelo kuba umfazi kwiminyaka, owathi akhe nemvakalelo kuba kakhulu ixesha elide, kwaye kanjalo kusetyenziswa kwabo ukuya kuvuma akhe nemvakalelo kuba nam.

Waba sele iintsuku eziliqela ukususela zethu parting bebe ngoko ke sudden. Ndiza koyika ndizakuyenza zange kuva evela kuye kwakhona. Imiyalezo ingaba sukuyihoya. Phambi kokuba yonke into waba kulungile, siza asikwazanga balwe kwaye thina wayemthanda ngamnye ezinye kakhulu. Kodwa akunyanzelekanga ukuba ufuna yona ibe ngenxa nerves, kwaye yokubhala kwakhona destroys wam mna-athathe kwaye sebenzisa ixesha elide. Ndiyathemba uyaqonda ukuba mhlawumbi ke bonke efanayo: (ndaba emangalisayo lwabantwana abancinane. Akukho parental okunokukhethwa kuko, akukho udushe, akukho ngxaki. Careful, ndibe nento yokuba ngathi kwabo hayi yizise umva.

Kodwa mna anayithathela sele kwenziwe okuninzi kwi-bam budlelwane ubomi.

Xa ndino i-acquaintance, mna idla kuba lam lokuqala ngokupheleleyo"annoyed"kwintlanganiso zama ukufumana ngaphandle apha msinyane kangangoko kunokwenzeka. Ukuba ngamanye amaxesha ufuna ukufumana umyalezo ngaphezu kanye ngosuku, mna ukulifumana sele annoying kwaye affectionate."Ndinqwenela kokuba umntu ndinga thetha ukuchitha ngakumbi ixesha. Molweni, ndiza kubona izinto ezininzi similarities ne boyfriend yam ke ukuziphatha. Mna rhoqo kuba ndinovelwano ukuba ugcina kum ngexesha umgama. Thina anayithathela wafunda kakhulu ukususela zethu elifutshane budlelwane, ngoko ke uyazazi unako ukubala kwi kum. Kodwa ke unako sterilize, nkqu ukuba ndine umntwana ke umnqweno, kwaye ndiya kuba zombini lohlobo behaviors. Mna ke ngoko ezibuhlungu: (ndinako uncedo kuye. Ndenza njani react ngcono? Lately, ndicinga ukuba xa ndino fears kwi budlelwane, ke mna, kuba abanye. Mna ngxi akhange na wayenolwazi uthando budlelwane, kwaye wam closest abahlobo zithe nam kuba phantse iminyaka, hayi simemo kwakhona. Ukuthamba ufumana i-inconvenience, akukho mcimbi ngalowo. Mna ngoko nangoko bazive uncomfortable kwaye andazi njani react. Nje uthetha ukuba abanye abantu yenza i-uphambene uloyiko akukho nto kum. Ndenze ntoni ukuba ubisi akuthethi ukuba bamba? Ingxaki kukuba akunyanzelekanga ukuba ufuna ngayo nayiphi na ngaphezu ndifuna aphele kwaye suggestive ubudlelwane kunye nomnye umntu. Zonke ndiza koyika ka-ufumana imali yam.