Kuyinto budlelwane - Ewe okanye hayi? Darling

Kubalulekile mhlawumbi akukho budlelwane, qhuba

Marian kwaye Jan zithe intlanganiso iinyanga ezintathu kwi rhoqo qhoAwukhange wathetha malunga nayo kodwa, apho icala zabo budlelwane kufuneka kuphuhliswe. Ngokunxulumene a edibeneyo-bhanyabhanya busuku Jan nangona kunjalo, zonke inkalipho yakhe kunye, kwaye Marie icela crucial umbuzo: "le into Ezinzima phakathi kwethu? "Oku ixesha ebhekisa indlela kuba wonke Ezimbalwa abathi ufuna ukusa ukusuka kwi-occasional Iintlanganiso kwi ezinzima budlelwane.

Nangona kunjalo, enjalo incoko unakho ngokunjalo involve imingcipheko.

Kwesinye isandla, ayikwazi bazive yakhe phantsi koxinzelelo ukuchaza budlelwane kwi i-ngaphambi koko umhla kunaye bargained kuba. Kwesinye isandla, nina bahlala sebumnyameni malunga nokuba zimvo zabo azikwazi reciprocated, xa ucela umbuzo: "kukho a budlelwane? "Mzuzu ufuna ukwenza oku kubalulekile umbuzo, ngoko kunokwenzeka mzuzu wenyaniso. Phambi kwenu thatha inyathelo, nje jonga zabo dealings ngamnye kunye nezinye.

Mhlawumbi encounter kwi imiqondiso, umqondiso into ezininzi Ezinzima kwaphuhliswa phakathi kwabo.

Ukuba Umlingane wakho sele Intlanganiso kunye yakhe abahlobo nosapho kwaziswa, uyakwazi alenze ukuba ukho ezinzima nani utshilo. I-unye ka-usapho ibonisa ukuba Umlingane wakho ungathanda ukuba ukwazi ebomini bakhe. Kanjalo, ulumkele njani yena wamanzi acociweyo kuwe kuthelekiswa yakho, abahlobo kunye nosapho lwakhe. Nguye attentive kwaye abakwicandelo iingxoxo? Yena ufuna zabo yesitalato proximity ngokusebenzisa hugs okanye ezinye izinto ezincinane Gestures? Ufuna ukuchitha wonke impela-veki nge toothbrush yakho Luggage kuba Umlingane wakho kwaye kanjalo kuhlangana kwi-iveki qho qho ngonyaka rhoqo? Umlingane wakho ufumana ukubala kunye nabo kwaye ibandakanya kwabo wakhe free ixesha ucwangciso? Msinyane yakho iintlanganiso yi yendalo yinxalenye yakho yonke imihla routine okanye impela-veki, lento na umqondiso a solid udibaniso. Umlingane wakho, nangona kunjalo, ingaba kuphela sporadically ixesha okanye constantly ngakumbi ukucinezela izibophelelo, ikhangeleka kuye budlelwane ukuba abe ingakumbi ebalulekileyo.

Ngenxa nkqu kwi-i-uxakekile umsebenzi ishedyuli, planners abafanele ukufumana indawo kuwe, ukuba kungenxa yakho Neqabane ezinzima malunga nawe.

Kufuneka kuchazwe Umlingane wakho kwi-unxulumano kunye izicwangciso zakhe yexesha elizayo? Ngoko ke oku kubonisa ukuba ukho ucwangciso a fixed budlelwane kwaye ninoyolo ukuba ukuchitha ixesha kunye nabo. Edibeneyo izicwangciso weld kunye, kwaye ifomu ebalulekileyo isiseko soluvo isebenza budlelwane nabanye. Ngaba rely kwindlela yakho nomfanekiso ngqondweni wakho ulwazi oluntu indalo, ukuba akuqinisekanga malunga budlelwane ukuba Umlingane wakho insecure. Rhoqo yakho gut ndinovelwano ikuxelela kakhulu, ukuba ngaba ndiyawazi ukuziphatha kwaye amazwi umlingane wakho ke ingqalelo.

Ngoko uza ngokuqinisekileyo ukufumana impendulo eyiyo umbuzo nokuba kukho ubudlelane.

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