Ekunene ixesha ukuqala usapho

Abanye abantu abadala oomama kuba sele weva: kodwa nephew

Namhlanje, ibala lokudlala ngu kaninzi ebone yi-moms kwaye dads, theoretically-yi-grandmothers, oomawomkhuluAbanye kubo, abanye kufika emva kwexesha kakhulu ukuya kufumana umntwana. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba namhlanje umfazi ngu wabuza kunye kweminyaka wokuzalwa yomntwana: Oh, kwaba i-kunokwenzeka ingozi. Inyaniso yeyokuba kwi-avareji oomama ingaba ukubonelelwa sifuna kuba umntwana phambi bawufincile umntwana wokuqala ehlabathini.

Kwiminyaka yakutsha nje, oko sele kwafuneka ubuso uphuhliso society.

Namhlanje, abafazi ingaba kulungile-educated yi-isini, kwaye baninzi abo ufuna inzuzo elinolwazi kwaye career amava phambi kokuqalisa usapho. Abo ufuna kuba abantwana rhoqo linda ngoko ke ixesha elide ukugqiba zabo uphando, ukwakha indlu ukufumana ilungelo umntu. Kodwa yintoni eyona kuba umntwana? Umfana umama okanye nge ubomi amava, mhlawumbi elona likhulu ithuba lokulinda kuba childbirth kukuba ka-umfazi othe ixesha ukuze kuphuhliswe kwaye bona ihlabathi, - mali zokhuseleko, kwaye career. Ukuba sele unayo ixesha kunye yakho roommate, nisolko ezilungileyo ku ke uyazi kwaye unako ukuhlola budlelwane. Ngexesha i-avareji ubudala abafazi ngomhla wokuzalwa yabo yokuqala unyana, kwi-West Germany, apho iminyaka kwimeko libazisa (Mpuma Sasejamani), namhlanje sino kwenzeka kweminyaka kuza ngu constantly lokukhula. Ngexesha yobomi ngonyaka, ingakumbi abasetyhini iphelelwe kwasekuzalweni omnye unyaka, ngokwe-avareji ngakumbi abantwana bazelwe kunokuba abafazi kuzo ngaphambili nje ubudala. I-indawo ekuyo into of young abantu abathi bathabathe zokuzalwa. Uphando lubonisa ukuba kunoko, rhoqo educated oomama ingaba iyafana younger oomama kwaye kwenza ngakumbi demanding ubomi izigqibo kunokuba oonyana babo. Kunoko oomama, oomama breastfeed ngakumbi kwaye ufuna mamelani kunye healthier ilizwi. CT, kodwa ke ayisosine yinyaniso ukuba wenze eyona oomama. Kunye elizayo abantwana, kanjalo sele kwezoqoqosho okuninzi. Ngokunxulumene a nzulu kwi ukonga ixesha, Ngokupheleleyo uqeshiwe abafazi kwi-Germany. Ukususela euros ngonyaka kuba elula yokuba dlala uphinda emva kukuba uyise. Abafazi abo bamele lokuqala ukufumana umsebenzi amava ingaba ngokukhawuleza emva maternity leave emva ukusebenza. Uza bazive a uluvo loyalty ukuba umqeshi wakho. Kulula earn ezingaphezulu imali yezavenge zakho shoulders. Abazali kufuneka ahlawule ngakumbi ingqalelo yabo younger abantwana ke, Abazali. Kokuba ixesha, ubomi amava, bamele ngakumbi Mature kwaye kufuneka ezininzi amava phambi kokuba wanika wokuzalwa ukuba oonyana. Baya akunayo ingxaki kunye yokulahla iqela okanye yokulahla iqela, ngoba sele kakuhle-celebrated ngokwaneleyo. Baya kuba ngaphantsi amandla, kodwa ngakumbi umonde. I-ixesha elide wena linda, i-harder kubalulekile ukuba get pregnant. Ngenxa kwi-eminyaka phambi kokuba umfazi kwangena menopause, inani amaqanda decreases. Egg maturity rhoqo sele chromosomal defects ukuba sinokukhokelela umngcipheko miscarriage kwaye issuance a Digene wokuzalwa isiqinisekiso. Omtsha nzulu kwi-ukhathalelo yembali"ukutyeba komhlaba kwaye sterility"(Fertilste kwaye Sterilste) ixhasa lo mxholo.

Researchers ifumanise ukuba amadoda, abafazi, injongo infertility baba wamanzi acociweyo kunye enye ekunokukhethwa kuko kunye zabo pregnant amaqanda.

Ekuqaleni kweminyaka ikhulu leminyaka eyadlulayo enye yawa a hundredth a nani, kwaye eminyakeni - ikhulu. Abafazi abo bamele pregnant, yayiyeyona miscarriage kwi eminyaka, a eminyaka kwaye eminyaka. Young oomama kuba eziluncedo kwaye disadvantages.

Uyakwazi ngokulula ngakumbi ubeke ngokwakho kwi-komntwana izihlangu kwaye ubeke ngokwakho endaweni yakhe.

Yakho maternal instinct imisebenzi nkqu ngcono. Kubalulekile scientifically proven ukuba abafazi musa ukufunda njengoko baya ubudala.

A solid Foundation kosapho lwakhe

Ingqondo kwaye intloko ukuziphatha dibanisa i uboniso ndlela ivili.

Kuba iminyaka a umama wenziwe ukuba ukukhulisa abantwana kunye counselors, kwaye kuba ngonyaka yena uyayazi instinctively ntoni ukwenza.

Uphando lubonise ukuba ulutsha oomama ingaba ngakumbi resilient kwaye ngaphantsi agitated.

Ukusuka purely biological incopho ka-imboniselo, eyona iminyaka ukuba ingaba umntwana ngabo kunye kakhulu mna - ukukholosa. Ngokunxulumene ingcaphephe, abafazi kukho uninzi prolific. Umngcipheko kwesisu kuba umbutho woomama kubaluleke kakhulu ngaphantsi kwe-ubudala, kuphela kuba anamashumi versus a anamashumi abafazi kwi old age, kwaye amakhulu abafazi iphelelwe phakathi unyaka omnye ngonyaka.

Ekuqaleni kweminyaka ikhulu omnye ubudala, kukho ngaphantsi ithuba gynecological iingxaki, ezifana endometriosis fibroids, kwaye zabo ukuthelekisa uphuhliso luza kwenzeka kwiminyaka emininzi.

Pregnancy ngokwayo kusenokuba lula kuba abafazi phakathi iminyaka elinye ezimbini, njengoko kukho abangaphantsi impilo iingxaki kule age group, ezifana phezulu igazi koxinzelelo kwaye diabetes. Ukongeza, umbutho woomama ingaba ngaphantsi sifuna ukunika wokuzalwa ukuba premature babies kwaye uphephe zinika wokuzalwa ekukhanyeni-ubude babies ngomhla wokuzalwa. Ukongeza kwi-physical izibonelelo, inzuzo ingaba nkqu ngakumbi: intermediate kwaye flexible, kulungileyo kuba budlelwane nabanye kwaye transition ukuba parenthood, uthi usapho kwaye umtshato therapist Susan Healer.

I-mva couples get watshata, ngakumbi kunzima eqhelekileyo indlela kuba nabo.

Ngoko ke, nangaliphi na ubudala, ayo okuninzi kwaye disadvantages, kwaye umntwana wakho mhlawumbi ngokuzolileyo, nangona yonke into, eyona nto ukuba ngaba uthando ngamnye ezinye ngentliziyo yenu yonke. Umntwana azinako scheduled. Oko kuza xa kufuneka oko. Ndiyaqonda ukuba ndine wam owakhe elinolwazi iinjongo, akukho mcimbi njani mna bawasukela. Ubawo wam ntombi yam, umhlobo wam lwabantwana abancinane, lowo ndiya kuba ezaziwayo ukusukela lwabantwana abancinane. Ubudlelane bethu sele kuba ngakumbi ngamandla kwiminyaka edlulileyo. Xa ndandisele pregnant. Oku asikuko kwakucwangcisiwe, kodwa akuvumelekanga accidental. Wam imfundo, mna bafuduka. Hayi lunxulumano njengoko olungasebenziyo.

Ndicinga ukuba uza kukwazi ukuyenza nge umfazi Loing kwi-kindergarten.

Awukwazi kuba eqhelekileyo phambi yakho career, ngoko ke umntwana kufuneka ucinge. Yonke into iza kudlula ukuba kukho efanelekileyo loluntu womnatha. Mna kanjalo bacinga ukuba abantwana kufuneka nabanye abantwana ngenxa yabo uphuhliso. Ngenxa yoko, mna akunayo imdaka ingqondo, shiya nabo kuphela. Mna ikunye umyeni wam kuba ezisixhenxe ubudala xa ndandisele pregnant.

Mna nje kokuba ugqibile wam iqondo kwi-Retail urhwebo kwaye bafuna ukwenza i-internship, njengoko zethu intombi kwaziswa.

Mna ke shocked ngomhla wokuqala, kodwa ke asikwazanga kuthabatha ixesha elide ngenxa yokuba uphumelele uvuyo phezu. Ndiza nje umama ngoku.

Kwaba cacisa ukuba ndino kuphela uhleli ekhaya kanye.

Ndine Hana ukusuka kindergarten, mna esayiniweyo phezulu ngokukhawuleza, kwaye xa unayo indawo, ndiya qala yokubhala candidates. Umyeni wam frees kum ukususela oko ndinguye ukwenza oko.

Njengelizwe elizimeleyo businessman, unako inkxaso nosapho lwakhe.

Sivuye kakhulu careful ukuba budlelwane bethu ayikho kakhulu elifutshane. Bonke oomawomkhulu abo bathabatha i-baby kunye nabo rhoqo liked ngayo, nkqu ebusuku, ngoko ke kukho isibini kuthi. Ndinguye ndonwabe qho kusasa xa"Amehlo Khan"kwaye"Umama"umsesane. Mna kwakhona thatha yakhe yam umandlalo kwaye ukuyonakalisa kwethu. Ndibathanda abo phinda-phinda. Kodwa mna kanjalo kufuneka wam yogcino izicwangciso. Kufuneka usoloko ilungiselelwe yokuba yonke into iya kuwa ngaphandle. Ngubani owaziyo? Indlu izele abantwana ingaba usoloko uhleli phupha lam. Kwiminyaka emibini kamva, ndaba wam wokuqala oonyana ababini. Neqabane lam lesibini umyeni esabelana mna kananjalo bafuna ukuba abe kunye nabantwana bam, Initio ezivaliweyo phantsi kwakhona. Kwaye ngoko Giovanni weza. Ukususela mna ke iminyaka emininzi eyadlulayo. Ukongeza uvuyo yokufumana pregnant kwakhona, mna kwafuneka fears kwaye doubts. Ngoku ukuba Johann ngu kwi-nursery, ndinguye kamsinya Xa ndiphakathi esikolweni, mna isicwangciso kuba iminyaka.

Wemiceli-mvuzo kuba motherhood ngu routine, uxolo kwaye tranquility.

Andiyenzanga ukufunda ngakumbi na iingcebiso iincwadi, kwaye andiyenzanga yena yenziwe yakhe senses. Ndiza kunoko kunokuba abanye oomama kwi-baby iqela, kwaye lento wesine ixesha mna anayithathela sung"Ishumi abancinane songs."Andikhathali yintoni abanye sele kuba, mna thelekisa ngokwam, akukho ngakumbi. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba unayo nayiphi na iingxaki ebusuku, musa hamba. Professionally, ndine kwenzeka ntoni ndifuna nabantwana bam. Kwaye yokuba unyana wam kwi-t-shirt ke abi kwaye yakhe Mitch ukuba ndiza yakhe grandmother, andikhathali kwaphela. Giovanni ngu kum encinane mmangaliso kwaye i-indescribable ulonwabo.

Abantwana ke magazine ufumana i-unxibelelane nomcebisi kwezezimali othembekileyo kwaye isikhokelo kuba abazali abantwana iphelelwe ezintathu ukuya esibhozo ubudala ngomhla amalwandle, ngokunjalo kumaxesha atshintsha ngesaquphe.

Ingcebiso kuba young iintsapho, iziphakamiso kunye umdla amanqaku malunga yonke into ukuba izinto ezichaphazela expectant oomama kwaye entsha abazali.

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